THE WEDDING SINGER: Rolly Jackson says she's tired of always being a guest rather than the bride at weddings
A WEDDING singer, who has been a bridesmaid 12 times, says she longs to walk down the aisle.
Like the character from Hollywood hit, 27 dresses, Rolly Jackson, 33, has been in the wedding party at several nuptials and has sung her heart out at others- but has been left waiting for her own Mr. Right.
The North Londoner, who came out of a difficult six-year relationship, told Voice Online she is hoping to find a loving man. Her ideal man is a Robert de Niro type - and failing that any man who’s over six feet tall, is ambitious and loves pets and kids.
The singer who sings love ballads like Celine Dion and Luther Vandross, said her well meaning mostly married friends are trying to help her find Mr. Right – but sometimes with painful consequences.
“I’ve had friends send me on blind dates which are sometimes fun but other times a pain in the backside,” said Jackson. “I feel positive about being married. I’m not doing anything extraordinary to make it happen. I would like this to happen to me; why hasn’t it happened for me? At one point, I thought maybe I shouldn’t be a wedding singer anymore because maybe that’s the reason why I’m not getting married.”
Jackson, who is also a project manager, said she now sometimes looks at the brides in their lovely ceremonies – and while she is happy for them, she also wishes that she was the one walking down the aisle to meet her future husband.
“It’s only natural. It’s like looking at someone in a nice car and thinking I wish that was my car. I look at the beautiful bride in that dress and wish it was me.
“I admire and sometimes envy them sometimes and think I wish I had that….I find myself sometimes planning my wedding when I sing at other people’s weddings which I sometimes feel silly about because I think to myself, I’m not even dating anyone. But I’m learning a lot from people so I’m thinking when it happens for me, it’s going to be perfect. But my friends will be probably celebrating their 20th anniversary when I’ll only be celebrating my first.”
Jackson said she wants love to find her and allow it to happen naturally.
“2011 is a special year so this may be the right year for me,” she said. She added that one thing she won’t do is lower her standards. “Every time I have attempted to lower my standards, I end up not being happy,” she said.
In addition, despite her disappointment in finding her husband so far, Jackson said she intends to continue helping to make other couples’ wedding days special.
“I won’t stop performing, because it’s a gift that I have and I enjoy it. I love to compliment people’s lives especially on their special day. Even when I am married, I won’t stop performing.”